The Real 4-Letter Words
“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” John C. Maxwell
“Remember that you get in life what you tolerate.” Darren Hardy
Fine…
Okay…
These words will no doubt be uttered from time to time, that doesn’t seem like a big deal, and maybe it’s not, but it’s important to start paying attention, and really think about things if you find yourself saying these words frequently.
For most of my life I didn’t even hear myself, or really pay attention to when and why I was saying these words. Or, why I was accepting it. Initially, I started to hear people around me saying it, all the time actually. I started cringing when I heard people saying it about their job, their food, the weekend… I couldn’t believe so many people were accepting life to just be okay. Then I started paying attention to my own language and I realized I was saying it way too much as well.
These words, and similar words and phrases, don’t have any passion to them. At least the ‘classic’ 4-letter words show a level of emotion.
It also starts to sound like you are a victim, or weak, like you are just waiting for something, or somebody to sort things out for you. But we are all fully accountable for ourselves, and how we choose to go through life, nobody, and nothing else will change that.
The goal isn’t to just ‘live life,’ it’s to really enjoy life.
Like most people I’ve experienced highs, lows, and the ‘fine,’ or ‘okay’ state of mind. Looking back I’ve realized that the ‘fine,’ or ‘okay’ state is possibly the most dangerous. The lows and highs both seem to trigger movement, whether it was change, learning, or just genuine enjoyment of life. But fine and okay are where we get stuck. It’s not ‘so bad’ so we don’t know we need to change. But it’s also not great, so why do we accept it?
I do not want to end any day, week or year, let alone my life, looking back and saying, ‘it was fine.’ What a waste, and what an insult to everyone I spent that time with.
Of course this isn’t really about two specific words, but more the mindset of going through life by spending too much time in this sort of ‘blah-zone.’ Just telling ourselves we will wait one more month, or it’s fine for now…
It’s scary because it’s slow… and you can’t really see it changing, but it’s probably a little bit ‘less-fine’ each day.
It contributes to a habit, a way of thinking and living. And every day you let it go, it becomes harder and harder to change.
Fine and okay are safe, they are familiar, but that isn’t really a very fulfilling life.
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